WINTER 2020: REFLECT, RESTORE, & RESET

“The sages follow the laws of Nature and therefore their bodies are free from strange diseases.  They do not lose any of their natural functions and their spirit of life is never exhausted.”

  - Inner Classic

The ancients remind us that when we live according to the seasons, balance comes more easily.  The seasons remind us that we are in it together but also that we are unique.  Each of us has our own way of sensing, interpreting and communicating with ourselves and with the world.  Only when we are balanced as individuals do we fully connect within ourselves and as integral parts of a marriage, a partnership, a  family, or a community.  Living in harmony with each season powerfully effects our health and well-being.  In this way, when we are centered, we remember what it means to be human and the necessity of our part to the whole. 

The darker, cold days of winter invite us to slow down, go inward and to reflect.  With our feet firmly planted in the present, we embrace being more than doing.  Our movement is more internal than external.  It is a time to compassionately observe the results of our year’s actions in body, speech and mind.  Quietly gazing into a fire during the longest nights of the year dispels judgements and fear, and summons our spirit as we spend time learning something of ourselves, remembering what nourishes who we are and considering what does not, and wondering what is our unique purpose relative to all we are bound to.  

Winter’s cadence is one of profound mystery, where energies resonate slowly in the depths. Things rot and transform to become food for seemingly dormant roots and things unseen.  As we discern the dimensions of the limits we’ve experienced throughout the year, including and especially where we’ve fallen short of being ourselves, our center becomes knowable.  We use our intention to sit, slow our minds and compassionately pay attention.  Physical discomforts ask us to listen to what our body is saying.  Unresolved emotions find purpose here if they move. Feelings come and go, but if we can sit still long enough to listen from within to the deepest source of their expression, the opportunity for refinement is palpable and there we find our work.  True well-being does not exorcise its adversaries, it offers them a seat at our table.  We discover that the difficult moments strengthen our innate capacities to become more ourselves.  Such a worthy seasonal endeavor stirs our health rather than shakes it.  And this is how we learn what precisely restores our balance so that with Spring, we be-come, renewed. 

Whether moving through the seasons or the years, as humans, being, balance is dynamic and relative.  Just as there is no one “right” way to be, there is no one “right” way to eat apart from considering the season.  What’s important is our willingness to understand ourselves and to learn what keeps us centered at any given time.  We are expansive beings after all.  We are nourished by our capacity to digest as much by the food we eat and the water we drink, as we are by the air we breathe and the thoughts we think.  We are, right now, a collection of our choices which has led us to this very moment.  Everything is connected.

Ancient Eastern thought not only honors the cohesive relationship between the tangible and the intangible, but remembers humans’ connection and obligation to the natural world that exists within and without us.  From a Classical Chinese medical perspective, we observe the principles and interconnected relationships between five elements that can be discerned in ourselves and our world - Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal and Water.  All of these elements have their own characteristics and dynamically influence each other.  Wood burns to create Fire that decomposes into Earth which contains Metals that enrich Water to nourish Wood.  Wood is cut by Metal. Metal is melted by Fire.  Fire is extinguished by Water. Water is contained by Earth. Earth is penetrated by Wood. Everything is energy.  

Constitutionally, each of us resonates with one or sometimes two elements more heavily which, in part, reflects our genetics as well as our tendencies that, when challenged, can sometimes bring us out of balance. When we understand our temperament, we recognize our strengths and are willing to appropriately stretch ourselves in the face of physical, mental, emotional or spiritual challenges such that we mature to become more ourselves. Everything changes.

Each food as well as its method of preparation has its own innate flavors and thermal dynamics which create specific therapeutic actions, properties and abilities to affect the various organ systems of the body.  When we are healthy, the foods, flavors and energetics of each season keep us in tune so we can maintain our well-being. In health, a balanced diet focuses on the nourishing Sweet flavor with small amounts of Bitter, Salty, Sour and Pungent foods. When symptoms give way, however, imbalance is made manifest and the dietary focus shifts to the predominance of one or sometimes two flavors and cessation of flavors that exacerbate a condition. This is how we utilize the flavors to bring us back to our particular elemental equilibrium. Food is medicine. 

The Water element rules winter and is associated with the Bladder and Kidneys, and is considered the fundamental energy of reproduction and longevity.  The cold weather requires more nourishing warmth within while the darker days generally lessen our activity and therefore our caloric needs.   To attune to the season, slow cooked stews, warm hearty soups, home made bone broths, cold water fish, small beans, whole grains, root vegetables, roasted nuts, steamed winter greens, tofu, dried, preserved and fermented foods are fortifying.  Salt is the flavor of Winter but not too much.  The natural salts in seaweeds, miso and soy sauce, millet, barley along with the moderate addition of land or sea salt promotes sinking and centering so that we can store energy during this time. Winter spices like cloves, fenugreek, chives, onions, scallion, anise, ginger, cinnamon, and black pepper are quite moving to support digestion and assimilation so that the energy we store does not stagnate.  Too much hot spice, alcohol, coffee and tobacco consumes our essential qi.  Too much meat and excess sweet flavored foods and overeating during this time cause sluggishness which is ultimately depleting. 

Winter asks us to eat less, sleep more and spend time in quiet contemplation. Hot ritual mineral salts baths warm and relax while salt scrubs exfoliate the dehydrated top layer of dead skin, detoxify and move our lymphatic system.  Exercise in the form of yoga, martial arts and warm footed walks in nature are called for.  Winter outdoor play during the daylight hours balance the evening’s repose.  

Fear, insecurity and overwork consume our vital energy.  The antidote to fear, the most primal of emotions, is reflection and meditation.  The opposite of fear is Will.  When we deliberately take stock of who we are, focus on our strengths, have compassion for our weaknesses, we remember who we are deep down and find nothing to be insecure about, only room to grow.  When we continuously expend more energy than our day allows for, we erode our internal cycles and gradually deplete our deepest reserves of energy. 

As we move into the new year, after thoughtful reflection, I invite you to write down all that you wish to let go of on a piece of paper and, with gratitude and reverence, safely burn it in a fire allowing your new found lightness to be replaced with an affirmation for yourself or an invocation of who you are willing to become.

I wish you and yours a beautiful season of wellness, love, peace and light.


SANITY IN THE TIME OF COVID

Just a few ideas to support your practice of wellness every day:

  • MEDITATION - I cannot stress the importance of mindfulness and meditation enough.  Even 5 minutes a day is helpful. If you can manage 5 minutes twice or three times a day, even better.  Join my Group Meditation or download Headspace or as a wonderful tool.  

  • ABSTAIN FROM NEWS FOR AT LEAST 3 DAYS A WEEK - The purpose of news is to get factual information which is vital these days. Know the sources from where you get your news so you are operating with actual facts rather than theories or opinions.  Unfortunately news also continues to become a source of extreme anxiety and/or addiction for those whose “fight or flight” stress mechanisms have not had a rest for months.  It is not only our physical immunity that we need to support and keep healthy, the strength of our mental immunity is also critical.  

  • SALTS BATHS RULE!  By now, all of you who know me understand the untold physical, mental and emotional benefits that salts baths bring.  Whether you are enjoying one of my Therapeutic or Ritual Salts Blends or simple Epsom salts, please spend 20-30 minutes in the tub at least one or two times a week.  Enjoy my Ode to Ritual Salts Baths for details on how to make the most of your time in the tub. Remember to hydrate before and after your tub, as salts baths tend to decrease blood pressure. 

  • GET OUT IN NATURE - The increase in virtual living is not without its cost!  Everything is energy and the particular electromagnetic energy of our devices is imbalanced and depleting on so many levels. When we disconnected from our devices, and reconnect with ourselves, our community and with nature we rediscover what happens when we truly nourish our mind and body with life. Plant or work in your garden, take a walk outside or a hike - even better, make part or all of it a walking meditation for 20 minutes, quiet and mindful. Best yet, build a morning altar as gratitude for your day.    

  • EAT WELL - The first few weeks may have been filled with fear and uncertainty and the comfort foods that go with it.  We are in a time now where the consequences of what we nourish ourselves with are real - this is true for the air we breathe, the fluids we drink, the thoughts we think, the words we speak and the food we eat.  As we move through the phases of this pandemic, it is critical to get our gut health in check as inflammation is key to healthy physical immunity. Choose whole organic foods where possible. Eliminate completely or limit added sugar intake to once a week, including alcohol and processed foods. This is part of the practice of wellness that is about enjoying and being grateful for our days rather than coming from a place of fear.   

  • DIGITAL DETOX CHALLENGE - This is an amazing and effective way to strengthen our mental immunity as individuals, couples and families.  A Digital Detox is not about white knuckling it because its supposed to be “good for you, “ it is about reconnecting with the deeper parts of ourselves and strengthening our ability to communicate, truly listen to others and to make choices based on thoughtful consideration as adults rather than falling prey to the inherent addictive design of many apps and games. Yes, of course the creativity we have seen during this time is priceless, wonderful and has strengthened our connections to each other in many ways.  This is about creating balance.  In this time of learning our limits, technology is no exception.  When we are in charge of our device usage and we understand the extremes of too much and none, we are that much stronger and grounded for it.  For those that live on their devices, I invite you to choose one or all of these suggestions to discover exactly how dependent if not addicted you are to your device. 

    • Limit device usage to no more than 2 hours per day.  Whether for news, communication or games be decisive and choose your time wisely.  Who’s the boss of you? 

    • Leave your device at home when you are out walking.  Be present to the sounds around you.  In this time of sheltering at home, our city has not been this quiet for decades.  Enjoy it! Listen to nature sounds, imagine what the birds are hearing of us humans, listen to and observe the way people are now interacting with each other. There is a lot to discover.     

    • Device time ends by 8:30 pm.  The light from our phones interferes with our sleep and wake cycles. Use it during the day for what you need and put it down.  

    • Do not use your device when you are alone.  The time sucking wormhole is limitless.  Let your imagination roam, pick one thing on your never ending “to do” list and work on it.  Find a cozy place inside or out and read the books you have piling up. Make something in the kitchen or make music or dance or hand write a letter or journal or card.  You were a bored kid once without a device, challenge yourself to think of something constructive.

    • Keep your devices out of the bedroom.  Let your sleep/wake cycles come from natural sunlight and natural dark.  If you need it for an alarm make it loud enough that you have to get up to turn it off.  Humans up to this point are not built to be chronically staring at devices especially in bed.  Aside from being a complete buzzkill to partnership and marriage, it's just awful from a postural perspective.  If your neck hurts, this is at the top of the list of habits to consider to get to the source of pain.  

    • Make digital rules for EVERYONE in the family.  As parents, the sooner you start the easier it will be.  It is especially crucial now that kids are learning virtually. If parents are not able to temper their own device usage, how will the kids learn to temper theirs?  Parents are the example and understand the problems associated with extended exposure to digital devices.  Share your wisdom with your kids.  Make it fun and have consequences for breaking the rules.  Let your kids set parents' consequences for breaking the rules just as you as parents set theirs! 

    • Ban all devices for one day a week.  Keep a journal as you go and write about how you feel, what you experience and what you learn. Again, this is all part of a mental immunity workout.  Choices make us strong and motivate growth.  Do this for 4 to 6 weeks and share what you learn!

RESTORATIVE SLEEP

Sleep. Deep restorative sleep is arguably the foundation of our lives.  The amount and quality of our sleep affects everything from our focus and mental processing, learning and memory to our reflexes, reactions and judgement.  Sleep affects our metabolism, hormone production, mood, cardiovascular function and immune function. Most importantly, sleep is crucially important to healing and health recovery. And yet, for too many, consistent and restful sleep is baffling.

The quantity of sleep each of us needs is highly individual. What is enough sleep for one person is not nearly enough for another. From an Eastern perspective, just as we eat according to the seasons, we want to sleep in harmony with the seasons too. The vitamin D from summer’s sunshine on our skin and eyes stimulates trillions of chemical reactions that allow us to sleep deeply at night, for naturally less time than in the winter when it is dark earlier and we go to bed earlier. Truly restorative sleep occurs when our energy has circulated through all of the channels until it finally nourishes our kidney energy.

While getting plenty of sunlight, proper nutrition and supplementation where its needed can aid in supporting restful sleep, the most important factor is excellent sleep hygiene.

Promote restful sleep and proper sleep hygiene by:

  • Daily wellness practices regarding stress relief and relaxation behaviors. For example, did you connect with loved ones today? Did you laugh today? Did your bare feet and/or hands touch the earth today?

  • Sleeping in harmony with the cycles of nature. Natural restorative sleep cycles in the summer may be shorter than in the winter. Let the summer’s sunsets inspire gratitude for how you were able to express the best of you. Let the shorter days of winter move you to more deeply reflect and nourish yourself.

  • Sleeping 7-9 hours each night. Find your own personal rhythm by going to sleep no later than 9:30 or 10 pm and waking naturally with the sun.

  • Eating dinner at least 3 hours before going to sleep so that your sleeping hours are not spent digesting but gently detoxifying thus more easily allow for restorative sleep. My rule of thumb is to eat like a King at breakfast, a Queen at lunch, and a pauper for dinner. This means eating your largest meal in the morning and the smallest in the evening.

  • Enjoying a bedtime ritual and choose to shine upon rising. Restful sleep is one of life’s gifts. Whether it’s a hot salts bath, meditation, slathering on essential oils with deep breaths, find what works for you to wind down your day and prepare for sleep. SLEEP + DREAM is one such ritual that works wonders. For menopausal symptoms, SLEEP + DREAM COOL NIGHTS is magical. Both are available on my SHOP page!

  • Reducing your exposure to disturbing news and/or topics of conversation. This is about reducing stimulation in the evening to induce relaxation. Choose a calming book or a gentle yarn over watching or reading the news before going to bed.

  • Keeping your bed an electronic free zone. Designate your bedroom as a place for sleep and relaxation. Also, avoid eating in bed.

  • Reducing screen time in the evening. If you must be in front of a screen at night, wear yellow glasses to block the blue light (which is the light of daytime so your brain thinks it’s morning). Make sure your phone has a nighttime filter.

  • Removing routers and electronics from the bedroom. Turn off Wifi and put cell phones on airplane mode.

  • Going to bed with joy and gratitude. Going to bed angry or upset just perpetuates stress hormones which will leave you tossing and turning. Communicate gently what you need to or write in a journal if you need to process then, LET IT GO.

  • Avoid caffeine after 4 pm. If you NEED, like a drug, caffeine in the afternoon to focus and stay awake, this is a sign of exhaustion and stress. If you NEED, like a drug, caffeine in the morning to actually wake up, this is a sign of exhaustion and stress. A re-set is called for. Please get in touch.

In terms of the chemistry of sleep, natural sunlight and our daily nutrition plays a critical role.

Melatonin is one of our natural hormones that signals our brain that it is time for sleep. Melatonin levels naturally rise in the evening to put you in a state of quiet wakefulness. It is the exposure to natural light that stimulates a nerve pathway from the retina in the eye to an area in the brain called the hypothalamus. There, a special center called the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN) initiates signals to other parts of the brain that control hormones, body temperature and other functions that play a role in making us feel sleepy or wide awake. (As a supplement however, it is very important to realize that melatonin is not like a “sleeping pill” and if it is not used properly when it is needed, it has consequences.)

Serotonin is a chemical precursor to melatonin. It is not just an important mood regulator, it’s also an important sleep regulator. It helps with maintaining the body’s 24-hour rhythms and facilitates sustained, deep sleep. Serotonin is synthesized from tryptophan by tryptophan hydroxylase 2, which is activated by vitamin D. 

  • Food sources of tryptophan include salmon, poultry, nuts and seeds, tofu, soy, milk and cheese.

  • Alcohol, artificial sweeteners, diet sodas and excess caffeine deplete seratonin levels.

Optimal vitamin D status is necessary for optimal serotonin production. This is why you get more restful sleep after a day in the sunshine. At least 20 to 30 minutes of sunlight on your skin during the day helps increase your body’s natural production of vitamin D3, which promotes the production of serotonin. In the evening, the brain naturally converts serotonin into melatonin, the main sleep hormone. Getting sufficient levels of serotonin during the day improves your chances of getting a good night’s sleep, and vitamin D plays an important role in that process.  Poor quality sleep and insomnia are common symptoms of vitamin D deficiency.

  • Food sources of vitamin D include fatty fish, cod liver oil, organic and grass fed liver, egg yolks, and cheese but if you are truly deficient, supplementation may be necessary as often occurs in the colder months.

So it should be no surprise, that magnesium, which assists in the activation of vitamin D, is also important for adequate sleep. All of the enzymes that metabolize vitamin D seem to require magnesium, which acts as a cofactor in these enzymatic reactions. Poor sleep quality and insomnia are also common symptoms of magnesium deficiency. Magnesium also supports healthy levels of GABA, a neurotransmitter that supports deep calm and restful sleep. 

  • Food sources of magnesium include dark leafy greens such as spinach, kale and chard as well as nuts, seeds and legumes.

If you can splurge, I cannot more highly recommend the benefit of high quality sheets and bedding. We spend up to a third of our lives sleeping. There are few betters investments.

Sweet dreams!

ON RITUAL BATHS

A Ritual is something that elevates the everyday into something special. Ritual baths have been around since the beginning of time to baptize, initiate, bless, detoxify, cleanse and beautify. As many of you have heard me say, it’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. The twenty minutes or so you enjoy in a salts bath with relaxed awareness allows for letting go, gaining clarity, setting intentions which is the ritual. And yes, even cleaning the tub before your bath is part of it too and arguably makes the intention even stronger. Perhaps you have decided upon your intention, celebration, detoxification goals or maybe you’re simply opening to newness without preconceived ideas to see what inspiration arises. Light a candle as you fill the tub with warm water and salts, stones and/or oils. It needn’t be complex; simply adding oils or epsom salts to the water is enough. Settle in, let go into relaxation and breathe, grateful for your being. Gently begin to meditate, visualize or vocalize in the moment. Let go of the past, be open to the future and center yourself, grateful for now.

There is no “right” time for a ritual bath. The ideal time of time of day depends upon your intentions. For celebrations and initiations, a morning bath ritual is a wonderful way to bring your intentions to the world completely present. When the focus is more about detoxification and discipline in the face of change, evenings can be beneficial as you have a chance to wrap up and sweat to continue the detoxification process or settle into a more formal medication practice. Done regularly this is a way to ground oneself in change and growth. Meditation encourages deeper relaxation and balanced metabolic function, enhances cognition and supports circadian rhythm. When you are finished, wrap yourself up and take at least 10 minutes to rest quietly and feel the effects while you hydrate with water and then herbal tea. This is also the perfect time to restate your intentions, affirmations and gratitudes.

As we slowly emerge from our covid cocoons, we will find the blessings of this time with all the changes it has brought. What a perfect time for a transformational bath!

The JOURNEY BATH RITUALS you will find in my | AROMAPOTHECARY | include high vibrational ingredients, essential oils, stones and teas designed as a collection to amplify and bless your own individual intentions. In addition to these other elements, each BATH RITUAL contains Himalayan Crystal Salts which are arguably the purest salts on earth. They get their color from the natural iron in their content.  For centuries, Himalayan salts have been used for protection, purification, grounding and clarifying.  Like all crystals and gemstones, Himalayan salt is formed over millions of years under tectonic pressure, free of exposure to toxins and impurities. Himalayan salt also contains over 84 minerals and trace elements found in the human body.  These minerals and trace elements exist in colloidal form so it is easy for cells to absorb them; while at the same time the unique crystalline form of Himalayan salt enables it to store vibrational energy.  The addition of crystals and stone medicine as well as other minerals create a path for your ritual journey.

BATH BASICS:

  • Dry body brushing is a wonderful pre-bath ritual. It stimulates the lymphatic system and encourages cell renewal by sloughing off the top most layer of dehydrated skin so that the skin can breathe more fully and any oils can be better absorbed. Use a natural bristle body brush and very lightly, with short strokes, start from your feet up your legs always moving towards your heart. Repeat from arms to chest. If you have a long handled brush to reach your back, move from the neck downwards. Note: never brush inflamed, sunburned or irritated skin.

  • Remember to hydrate before and after your bath. This is important because salts tend to naturally lower blood pressure which is part of the relaxation process and also stimulates the lymphatic system for detoxification purposes. However, if you are dehydrated before you get in the tub, you might feel lightheaded or dizzy when you’re done. This is also why it’s important to sit quietly and rehydrate afterwards. Cool water, warm tea, and/or sliced oranges at the side of the tub are nice additions. If you have high blood pressure, cardiovascular conditions or diabetes, please discuss with your doctor.

  • Have a cool cloth prepared at the side of the tub in addition to a larger one you might use as a neck roll or prop so you can bathe comfortably.

  • The temperature of the water should be as warm to hot as you can comfortably enjoy for 20 to 30 minutes.

  • If you are using stones, take time to hold and connect with their energy before placing them in or around the tub. Each stone has its own unique properties and they are a powerful way to change your own vibration for healing purposes and specific intentions.

  • Avoid drugs or alcohol before a bath so you can be fully present in the water and not become dizzy

THE INVITATION

I need to be silent a while, worlds are forming in my heart.

— M. Eckart

From an Eastern perspective, a virus is generally considered Wind Cold.  Thus the nature of what is happening now is more than revealing, it is asking something of us.  Wind is an invitation to CHANGE Cold is an invitation to SLOW DOWN.   Seen from this perspective, this virus heralds a sort of devotional compassion for humans, bidding us to consider just how precious life is and to slow down, reflect and change to grow.  The appearance of this virus has us learning our limitations, re-considering what is truly of value, creating meaningful connections with those we thought we had nothing in common with, respecting boundaries, deeply understanding the cost of inequity, celebrating each other as families, communities, cities, states and countries,  imagining holistic solutions to complicated problems, and exposing those that prey on division, exploitation and opportunistic monetization.  In  this time of stop, we’ve been given a glimpse of unbidden clarity which is also the very thing that makes this time divine.  

If you are someone who was unpleasantly surprised or unnerved to be “living in this uncertain time,” welcome to the precipice of what it actually means to be human.  The fact is, all time is uncertain and therefore precious.  If you are one of millions who have lost livelihood or have been self quarantining or sheltering at home or have been working on the front lines or supporting those quarantining or volunteering at food banks or learning new ways to teach and learn and be with your families or mercifully understanding something about what it means to be dying and any other of the myriad ways this time has shown you your limitations, welcome! Such hard learning in real time gives us a deeper understanding of our limits.  And this is precisely what makes us human. After all, “inhumane” is a word that we use to describe that which lies beyond human-ness.  Time itself is enduring, our individual time on this earth is not. 

Let’s wonder further.  Let’s consider that we are living in a time not of uncertainty but of consequence.  The ways we have been conducting ourselves up to this point are observable and knowable as are the assumptions which underlie them.  That is, we are living in a time that is faithfully consistent with the facts about the standards to which we’ve conformed and the limitations we have respected or trespassed. One need not look further than the world’s improved air quality or the fish and dolphins returning to the canals of Venice to see the consequence of human relationship to the planet. There is no real question as to what Mother Nature’s vote would be about humans continuing.  The relative increase in the death toll of our country’s marginalized, forgotten, elderly, exploited and taken for granted exposes how inequitable, divisive and unstable relationships are when they occur between  “us” and “them” or at the expense of “them” for “us.”  

Our capacity to serve the greater good by washing our hands, social distancing and staying at home simultaneously reacquaints us with ourselves and respects each other in a magnificent manner.  Some of us are finding out for the first time that our behaviors and assumptions have been ill considered at best or not considered at all at worst.  There are those that would have us all ‘just get past this” and have the world go on as “it did before”, virus deaths be damned for the sake of letting the money making machinery continue in its inequitable and until now, largely unquestioned fashion.  And there are a some that understand that there is no going back to “what it was”, but rather taking on board the lessons to be learned from this rare time, and moving forward, imagining new ways of being and behaving differently and appropriately according to this time.  There are many of us who are growing and changing perhaps in ways we didn’t know we needed and slowing down enough to enjoy the blessings of the ordinary in every day living, at least if the sourdough bread making craze is any indication. Growing and greying tresses challenge ideas of beauty and puts aging in appropriate perspective.  Fitness becomes properly understood not as a goal but as a way to appreciate our capacity for wellness rather than an antidote to the fear of illness.  

This time is difficult as all change is.  Relationships thrive or break apart, challenges are everywhere.  Change is an extraordinary process of sometimes hard learning, breaking down, letting go, loving bigger.  And this, stew of the fermentation process that is change is ultimately is how beauty is made

So as we slow down and live according to what we actually need to thrive as individuals, families and communities let us respond with the clarity and courage of our convictions and make the world a more beautiful place.  

EVEN SO, AM I

I am the boundless ocean. This way and that, the wind, blowing where it will, drives the ship of the world. But I am not shaken. I am the unbounded deep in whom the waves of all worlds naturally rise and fall. But I do not rise and fall. I am the infinite deep in whom all the worlds appear to rise. Beyond all form, forever still.

—— Ashtavakra Gita

ODE TO MAURICE

Many years ago I briefly knew a man who was dying. Having no family he’d speak of, my friend and I brought him to the country that he might know some community and peace in this life before his next. Clumsy and uncertain, I asked him questions I’d want to be asked were I standing in his shoes, Death helping to untie his one last time. I asked him about his life, what he remembered most, what he’d miss the most, what he was most present to now, in the quiet moments. I scribbled a few notes. I listened to his stories of the plans he had for his life, the people he met along the way, and the stories of what happened too. I heard him speak about what brought him joy and what caused pain. I asked him about his family, from where he came, and to where he’d go to. After all, everybody comes from someone. He withdrew in the face of such questions as old wounds seemed to mix with a certain kind of opprobrium yet he held no regrets. His singular request was not to be buried in Potter’s Field. I promised. At the time, I just thought “Potter’s Field” was some olden days expression, not a real place on a real island where the unclaimed are actually buried typically by prisoners. As our time in the country gave way to a hospice stay in the city, I gently peered around the edges of his fear which made for a crowded room. Undaunted and softly, I asked him if was afraid. “Not of dying, just of being buried in Potter’s Field,” he replied. Blissfully unaware at the time of some life’s harsh realities, again I solemnly promised. Maurice exhaled. I well understood that it’s the fear of being forgotten woven into the pall of death which might make a shroud heavy.

I met Maurice while working at a wonderful organic restaurant in the East Village run and created by a few of the most stunningly beautiful souls I’ve ever known. This delightful cozy place had outstandingly delicious seasonal home cooked food that was reasonably priced and boasted one of the first juice bars in the city. He quickly became a regular and we called him “Cayenne Pepper Man” because he asked for said spice in conspicuous overabundance. Maurice mostly didn’t speak much, but my friend in her generous and gracious way, gradually learned of his troubles with pancreatic cancer. Over those few months, we learned something about Maurice’s life and, when the time came, about how we are built to remember for each other. I was there to witness his passing and prayed for his numinous transformation. The nurse gave me his keys and what little he owned and told me about Potter’s Field. I am grateful for the lessons Maurice taught me. The few notes I took provided practical guidance, offering names and towns, hints of where I might find his people so I could keep my commitment. I was there to remember him heartily to his people, and walk with them through their thick reluctance so he would be claimed. I was there to share with them his stories as they gathered his memories and belongings from his tiny room. Maurice was buried with his family.

I remembered Maurice this morning when I read about the number of unclaimed people being buried in Potter’s Field this week.. The grief of it is heartbreaking. Many will read the same story and try to shake it off, uncomfortable and unaccountable. But this kind of grieving and the willingness to engage in a deeply unpromising circumstance is the way of love.

In the Age of Kondo where we keep only those things that spark joy, we are reminded that there is more to the story. Originally for the burial of twenty Union Army soldiers, Potter’s Field now holds the remains of more than one million people reportedly with about 1,500 burials a year. In the last week, hundreds more have gone to the earth of Hart’s Island, lives claimed only by Covid19. Now I’m no statistician, but in a city as dense as New York, the chances are high that each of us might know someone who knew someone who crossed paths with some of these people, if we haven’t crossed paths with at least one of them ourselves. Just think of the volume of nameless faces any of us might see in an hour long commute. Maybe you shared a smile, gave a dollar or a blessing, maybe you became a little more grateful for your days. Maybe they served you coffee or made you laugh or forced you to slow down or nudged you to think a bigger thought. In all the ways we don’t know we are connected and for all the reasons we are, let us fearlessly claim those nameless in Hart Island as fellow humans, that they may be remembered and gathered in by their ancestors. Let us light candles with regard their lives as valuable as every life. Let us be grateful for the earth they now namelessly nourish. Let us do this as humans, BEing.

THE GREAT TURNING

by Rowan Mangan*

My sweet darlings, how did you stay afloat for so long 

and never suspect you were built to breathe underwater? 

Why did you never toss thoughts around in three dimensions

never loose them like dragonflies into the deep sky.  

How could you fear falling? 

Didn’t you see the spiders stringing safety nets 

across the earth every day just in case?  

Instead you look at this world and I watched, 

I felt the air’s grim thickening the waters rise. 

You were huddled at the precipice, 

at the very brink, my loves 

and still bellowing for more. What crucial inspiration turned you at the last?  

I’ll never know what broke over you 

and with what calamity clamor or grace. 

But when you knelt as one it was a mighty sight.  

You placed your hunger on the ground 

and left it to lie among the gadgetry of old logics 

beside the corpses of cruelty and greed.  

You were exquisite to me then.  Long legged and bright eyed, 

build of gravel and star dust. Oh my sweet funny loves, my unfurling galaxy 

my pebbles scatter of promise.  

And so we came to the age of the great unbuilding 

where everyone’s name is Stillness. 

Here, day gathers you into the deep magic of play. 

Here, night ponders you in the ancient magic of rest.  

It’s a time of dragonflies.  So be soft in your hearts dear hearts.  

For we are all cast shining and short-lived into the sky 

Allow your face to take the shape of wonder 

when your children ask again to tell the tale of how you almost broke the world.  

(*Note: I had the great good fortune to hear this exquisite poem orally.  Any mistakes in the printed words including punctuation are solely mine)

THE PURPOSE OF MYSTERY

You Reading This, Be Ready

Starting here, what do you want to remember?

How sunlight creeps along a shining floor? What scent of wood hovers, what softened

sound from outside fills the air? 

Will you ever bring a better gift for the world

than the breathing respect that you carry

wherever you go right now?  Are you waiting

for time to show you some better thoughts?

When you turn around, starting here, lift this

new glimpse that you found; carry into evening

all that you want from this day.  This interval you spent 

reading or hearing this, keep it for life.

What can anyone give you greater than now, 

starting here, right in this room, when you turn around? 

 - W. Stafford, 8/24/93

So here we are in not knowing.  A moment so honest, so laid bare, the power of our presence moves beneath it.  Let us wonder together, present to what is.  The birds are singing.  Gratitude.  Perhaps you hear what the birds hear of human sounds.  Humans are more quiet now than not.  Those that are speaking share plans to buy goats and chickens and two hundred pound bags of rice.  Some ask how they may be of service.  Word arrives of yet another death. We learn that mail disruption comes not from rain, snow, sleet, hail nor dark of night after all.  Another siren races near or far.  Senses are heightened. People volunteer, invent, create, offer, cheer, support, share, live and die. There is this crisis brewing after all. 

The word crisis comes from root, “ to sieve, separate, decide”.  The Latinized form of Greek, krisis is the turning point in a disease, a vitally decisive point at which change must come for better or worse.  So now, in all the mysterious tumult and silence, this crisis obligates us to decide.  

Present to the exposed and fragile underpinnings of the systems perhaps some have held as ideal, the curtains have now been thrown open to reveal the small ‘wizards’ and all that which we have tacitly agreed to support by whether by dollar, vote, participation or silence.  What is it that you see in the actions of our “health” care systems, our “emergency” systems, our governmental systems, our systems of “communication,” ownership, and boundaries, and even our systems of death.  From the “It is what it is” department, and from our largely consumer culture’s perspective, it seems about accurate that we are in this crisis. What we decide as individuals is what makes a society and determine what our “culture” will become. There is so much “I don’t know” in our midst, but this time also offers us opportunities if not blessings too.

It’s ok not to know. In fact, it is arguably imperative right now that we don’t. The world is turning upside down and with it tossing all our old ideas hither and yon. This is the PURPOSE OF MYSTERY. It is in this kind of dark that drops one to their knees to find light. The hidden spiritual significance of such a time and scale as this comes about rarely. To hide in the past or get stuck in what was, by definition, denies any possibility of a new future.  And any attempt to catapult ourselves into the future to “get back to normal” taking priority over the present would literally be appalling, that is, a willful covering of ones eyes and senses to the circumstances that we find ourselves in now in order to continue them.  

One need only to peruse the top ten lists of just about anything right now to see where we’re at as a culture. What is reflected back should come as absolutely no surprise for us to find a contagious virus among us. From a planetary perspective, humans are a virus to the earth, destroying the lungs of the planet with each deforestation and polluting the oceans, the very sources that are meant to bring vitality. Tigers and other wild creatures are held captive in menageries and markets around the world. This utter and colossally narcissistic disrespect for limits and boundaries is precisely what brought us here. It is time we reign in our striving and obey the limits of place. The less accountability we have to limits, the more we are likely to continue the thoughtless arrogance that assumes that the satisfaction of whatever humans desire is the pinnacle, rather than understanding our place as humans on this planet as stewards of the holy ground upon each of us stands. We must consider our relationship to our place and how it sustains us and the strength and value of our interdependence between each other if we are to have anything close to longevity as a species. Our resources are NOT unlimited. This is true for the natural resources around us and within us. It is this very fact which makes us human. Life itself may have endless possibilities but OUR life is limited. Nature has no judgements, only consequences.

Nature is about cycles, give and take, life and death and the repercussions therein. Our consumer culture seems only to be in on the ‘take’ part of the arrangement. A culture where companies have rights but trees do not, is a culture that is driven by the haves at the expense of the have nots. A culture that rewards “achievements” accomplished only on a balance sheet is one that is blind to humanity as a whole. A culture addicted breeds desperation and depravity. A culture that produces ‘reality’ shows so foul that it is hard to look away is a culture that is being dragged by the neck to godknowswhere. A culture that ignores what’s befallen a people that has not only allowed but actively encourages the forgetting of those on the fringes to have to fend for themselves is a culture gasping for breath, not present to life.

Only when we are present and accountable to what nature gives us within its inherent limits can we come to recognize ourselves as stewards of the holy ground upon which we stand. For better or worse, most of us are learning to live within limits and there is beauty in it. We might see it now like never before. Perhaps its in the time we give to grace before a meal or the thoughtfulness of its donation. We might see it in viral videos of EMS vehilcle lights, a 7 PM applause and cheering faces from handmade masks or offerings of ventilators. We might see it in precious found time spent in gardens now appreciated in an entirely new way. We might see it in the lessons learned at the end of another long day with family in close quarters learning how to learn to be together and thrive. We might see it in saying ENOUGH. We might see it in all the beautiful, creative and inspired ways we’ve been able to connect despite social distancing. Suddenly, we understand not only that we are connected but how we are bound together and still can move forward because of each other not in spite of the other.

Experience has taught me that this is such a time not to resist or hate; but simply to learn and be. And yes, to decide. Desire and hate create resistance and attachments which are roads that lead to nowhere lucid. If we open our senses to the whole of our situation, without judgement, our decisions have a chance for a kind of centered clarity.  This doesn’t mean our decisions will be easy, but our ability to respond in the future depends on now.  If you thought you didn’t matter, perhaps you are reconsidering the absurdity of such a thought. If you think of what mattered to you five months ago, does it still matter to you now? What matters to each of us now is what our reality is to become. May all mercies and grace be with you and yours especially for the dear ones who have passed. May their lives remind us all of its preciousness.

In your darkness, what do you want to remember? In the breathing respect you carry, there you will find your light. Whatever your concerns, big or small, make a conscious decision about them and proceed accordingly. Each of us is needed in this way right now.

All love and light,

Kelli

THE POWER OF PRESENCE

Before you continue, I invite you first to sit comfortably, perhaps light a candle, apply an essential oil blend or open a window to smell the fresh air. … … …

When you are ready, close your eyes and breathe deeply for a few minutes. As You inhale, RECEIVE a breath; it is there for you but do not take it, receive it. As you exhale, LET GO of anything that does not serve You. What this looks like practically speaking is this; exhale like a sigh, letting go of any worries, fears, anxieties or thoughts that do no serve You in this present moment. Let the space between each breath settle just enough to sense gratitude then inhale, perhaps even with a smile. No matter who or where you are, there is so much to be grateful for. There has never been, nor will ever be anyone just like You. You are here in this moment for a purpose. You are here in this moment because of those that came before you. Some of You are here in this moment having created those that come after you. We are all here as a consequence of our interconnectedness to each other. Now, just for nine breaths, BE in the fullness of each moment, each breath. There is nothing to do. Today is a day we have never seen before, each moment a mystery pregnant with all possibilities. And breathe…

… … … … … … … …

Change is life. Life is change. The last twenty years have brought such rapid change which has arguably affected every aspect of our lives. THAT we change is inevitable from the moment we are born. HOW we change is, to a great extent, up to each of us. The current pandemic serves as a reminder of the interconnection between ourselves and the natural world as well as our relationship to the spiritual world within and without through time. This is the Way of it.

Now I do pray history will ultimately tell the story of how we all came together during this time and with full understanding that our thoughts and words and actions and decisions matter because these are the energies that create reality. Chaotic as it is, this is an amazing OPPORTUNITY for us as humans, being. Like a COSMIC TIME OUT, yes, this is in part perhaps a massively uncomfortable and painful time, but we are also now being given an opportunity to STOP and consider the consequences of HOW we are BEing alive and on this planet in this moment.

As far as we know and in the vast history of the universe, humans have been around for such a sliver of time. Yet we are here. There is power in that little sliver. Perhaps we think we know and have conquered so much, that we are better off than before, that the way we are going is the way of progress. Certainly it’s one kind of progress if you count learning the hard way, progress. Etymologically speaking, even the word progress comes from the root meaning ‘to walk, go’. Well, learning to walk means sometimes falling down. And today, the stark evidence anywhere we look, points in the direction of falling down, the direction of STOP. We fall when we lose our balance. We fall when we don’t know our own boundaries. We fall when we think we know better and run away from the ones we are connected to just as sure as we fall when our desires outweigh our ability to temper them. As the aphorism goes, it’s not the falling down that counts, it’s the getting up. Ideally, this doesn’t mean getting up ready for a fight, doing the same thing over again expecting a different result. It means re-COGNIZING, re-thinking, re-MEMBERING who we are, who we are becoming and who we want to be as we stand. Our capacity to change is what makes all the difference as it allows us to rebalance, temper ourselves, think bigger thoughts. This is vital before we even begin to take a step forward. How we stand is, on every level, a measure of our VITALITY. The power in standing again comes from the power of life itself. It comes from remembering all the lessons we learned the easy way or hard, and by listening to the old ones who came before us, and how we might be poised to become recognizable as Humans to our young and vulnerable, that they may too learn something of themselves with time. How we stand in this moment is where the proverbial rubber meets the road. But before we get ahead of ourselves, let’s wonder about this for a moment.

What if we are here as a consequence of FORGETTING who we are, where we came from, and what our place is in the world. During this time of social and physical distancing, let us just stop, look and listen a while before we proceed. Let us understand how we got here in the first place, beginning with ourselves, in this very moment. This is what CHANGE asks of us as responsible humans being. Reacting to change is mindless, easy, immature, and often comes from fear or power. The energy of reaction is hasty, staccato and selfish. RESPONDING to change is relatively slower, emotions tempered, and requires thoughtful consideration for the greater good of all.

Washing hands out of fear of being infected is very different than washing hands out of a sense of responsibility and understanding that each interaction we have affects people we will likely never know. Think about this for 20 seconds while washing your hands. The action is the same, and if done properly, the hands are just as clean but the underlying energy of it is vastly different.

So just for today, let us stop and BE. Let us consider who we are and that our every thought, breath, word and action affects countless we may never meet. This is the power of PRESENCE.

In the coming days, I will wonder with you about some bigger thoughts. I pray you and yours are well and taking time to reflect during this time. Perhaps we will all learn a little more about ourselves and our capacity to respond. Because this is what is being asked of us now.

Peace and light,

Kelli

COVID19 BASICS

I’ve been getting lots of calls and emails about prevention, self care, nutrition, herbs and oils. In the interest of expediency here are some basics. I will elaborate more fully in the coming days.

I first want to share the knowledge gained from the Chinese Medical community. This virus is characterized by obstruction of respiratory pathways. The recommendations for what you can to to help safeguard yourself:

  • Drink lots of hot liquids - coffee, tea, soups, hot water.

  • Take a sip of hot water EVERY 20 MINS to keep mouth moist and washes any virus into the stomach where the gastric juices will neutralize it before it can get to the lungs.

  • Gargle 1-2x daily with warm/hot water and an antiseptic such as vinegar, salt or lemon.

  • The virus attaches itself to hair and clothes. Any detergent kills it but you must take a bath or shower if you come from the street. Avoid sitting anywhere when you come in from the street. if you can’t wash clothes daily, hang them in sunlight as sunlight will shorten its lifespan.

  • Wash metallic surfaces carefully and thoroughly - the virus can last up to 9 days on metal surfaces.

  • Be vigilant about washing all surfaces - handrails, knobs, etc.

  • DO NOT SMOKE. THIS INCLUDES VAPING!

  • Wash hands thoroughly for 20 seconds with any soap that foams.

  • Eat fruits and veggies.

  • Elevate Zinc and Vitamin C levels (see below)

  • Avoid getting the common flu as it weakens the system.

  • If you feel any discomfort in throat at all - use the above methods re gargling with salt water.

PREVENTION & SELF CARE

  • Eat clean food including fresh, local organic fruits and vegetables (free of preservatives, dyes, additives and pesticides).

  • Drink clean filtered water NOT from plastic bottles.

  • Exercise reduces stress, strengthens the immune system and supports sound sleep. 30 minutes to target heart rate interspersed with simple home strength training 5 days a week is optimal. For those that exercise a lot, remember to take rest days too.

  • Sleep is imperative for restoration. This is an opportunity to understand and actually feel the importance of a sound nights rest. A minimum of 7-8 hours is optimal. This is an excellent time to rediscover your natural sleep rhythm. For parents, as best you can, sleep when your children sleep to maximize your energy.

  • Create new habits. This is an excellent time to kick the coffee and/or sugar habit and create a morning exercise or meditation routine.

  • Spend time in daily gratitude, prayer and meditation.

  • Net pots are wonderful during allergy season. Remember to use with distilled water or saline solution only.

  • Stay home when you are sick. A 14 day quarantine after known Covid19 infection is the bare minimum required to prevent reinfection of oneself or another. Recovery after the quarantine period for Covid19 is equally as important as prevention. (Staying home when you’re sick is true even for the common cold and basic flus. Listen and respect what your body is telling you - to rest, heal and restore takes whatever time it takes for you as an individual.

  • Clean and disinfect frequently touched objects and surfaces using appropriate cleaning spray products and wipes. Remember that some cleaners require 10 minutes of contact time for disinfection to occur.

  • Wear a face mask, gloves and whatever protection you need if you are around someone who is sick or if you are in public in close proximity.

NUTRITIONAL SUPPLEMENTATION

There is no specific treatment for Covid19. The International Society for orthomolecular Medicine urges a nutrient based method to prevent of minimize symptoms for future viral infection. The following inexpensive supplemental levels are recommended for adults. For children reduce these in proportion to body weight:

  • VITAMIN C: 4,000 mg (or more) daily, in divided doses.

  • VITAMIN D3: 2,000 IUs daily. Start with 5,000 IUs a day IU per day for two weeks then reduce to 2,000 IU’s. Take extra Vitamin K2 which tells the body to put the Vitamin D into the bones.

  • MAGNESIUM: 400mg daily (in citrate, malate, chelate or chloride form)

  • ZINC: 20 mg daily

  • SELENIUM: 100 mcg daily

  • If you are taking blood pressure medicines, ACE inhibitors or ARBs (ramipril, lisinopril or losartan) DO NOT discontinue them without consulting your physician. Traditional anti virals are NOT effective for SARS-CoV2 virus.

WISHING YOU HEALTH, PEACE & JOY!

This year of the Ram is a time to celebrate our interdependence, and the strength we achieve by working together.  The Sheep reflects our natural state of harmony and togetherness.  Embracing and respecting the needs of others not only perpetuates mutual respect, but our reputations are enhanced when others feel respected and appreciated in our presence.  In this way we are empowered to persevere in the face of challenges and make a difference for not only our own happiness but the happiness of those around us.  While following your passion will lead you to great success, following your compassion will lead you to great joy.  Reach our to others with compassion and sensitivity during this year of the goat and you will gain the rewards of a truly rich life.